Last updated: December 2025
By Jonathan and Amy Kales, Co-Mediators at Kales & Kales, PLC
Divorce mediation is one of the most popular alternatives to traditional divorce litigation — especially in Northern Virginia — partly because it usually leads to more affordable outcomes than going to court.
Rather than spending months or years battling in front of a judge, mediation allows couples to resolve their issues collaboratively, reaching a Marital Settlement Agreement that paves the way for an uncontested divorce.
Typical Cost Range for Divorce Mediation in Virginia
On average, the total cost of divorce mediation in Virginia ranges from about $3,500 to $7,500 for both parties combined.
In Northern Virginia — including Fairfax County, Arlington, Alexandria, McLean, and Tysons Corner — this range reflects local market rates and complexity levels a mediator is likely to see.
Unlike traditional litigation, where couples may each pay $25,000–$100,000 or more, mediation keeps total costs much lower by reducing billable hours, avoiding court appearances, and limiting complex legal procedures.
Typical in-person and virtual mediation costs include:
- Two to three mediation sessions
- Mediated marital settlement agreement drafting
- Support calculations (child/spousal)
- Evaluation of legal and financial issues
Many mediators estimate that common cases can be concluded in just a few sessions — especially where communication is reasonable and major issues are few.
Why Mediation Costs Less Than Litigation
- No Retainers Required
Until it’s time to draft your Marital Settlement Agreement, mediation providers in Northern Virginia, including Kales & Kales, often don’t require upfront retainers, meaning you pay as you go rather than frontloading large sums. When it’s time to draft your Marital Settlement Agreement, the deposit required is low when compared those required for litigation, usually between $2,000 and $3,000.
- Fewer Billable Hours
Mediation sessions are focused on negotiation and agreement. There’s no billing for court preparation, depositions, hearings, or waiting for courtroom time.
- Collaborative Process
Couples usually share costs and work together, reducing conflict-related expenses.
What Isn’t Included in Mediation Fees
It’s important to understand what divorce mediation does not cover:
- Court filings or submissions — Mediators cannot file your divorce papers; a separate attorney or service must handle this.
- Individual legal advice — A mediator acts as a neutral facilitator, so you may choose to hire a personal attorney to review agreements before signing.
- Additional expert support — If your case involves valuations (e.g., business interests, complex estates), you may need separate professionals.
Even with these additional costs, however, mediation is still typically far more cost-effective than litigation.
Factors That Affect Your Divorce Mediation Costs
The final cost of your divorce mediation in Northern Virginia can vary based on several key factors:
- Case Complexity
More assets, complicated financial situations, or disputes over custody can increase the number of sessions required.
- Communication Between Spouses
Couples who can communicate and compromise tend to resolve issues quicker and with fewer billable mediation hours.
- Mediator Experience
Highly experienced or certified mediators often charge more, but they also can help couples settle efficiently and avoid prolonged negotiations.
Divorce Mediation vs. Divorce Litigation in Virginia
Here’s a side-by-side comparison to illustrate the cost difference:
| Process | Typical Cost |
| Mediation (Total for Both Parties) | $3,500 – $7,500+ |
| Contested Divorce Litigation (Per Spouse) | $25,000 – $100,000+
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| Retainer Fees (Litigation) | Often $7,500+
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Mediation is usually far faster and gentler on family relationships, making it an attractive option — especially for couples with children or shared assets.
How Divorce Mediation Works in Northern Virginia
- You and your spouse meet with a neutral mediator.
- The mediator helps identify issues like property division, custody, and support.
- Sessions continue until key decisions are made and tentative agreements are reached.
- The mediator drafts your Marital Settlement Agreement.
- The agreement is reviewed by each party (and attorneys if chosen).
- You work with a lawyer or document service to file with the court.
This collaborative process is private, flexible, and tailored to your unique situation — unlike courtroom battles that can drag on for months.
Why Couples in Northern Virginia Choose Kales & Kales for Mediation
At Kales & Kales, you benefit from:
- A co-mediation team of seasoned attorneys — Jonathan and Amy Kales — offering balanced, informed support throughout the process.
- Offices in Fairfax, Arlington, and Tysons Corner, plus virtual mediation options.
- No large upfront retainers — pay as you go.
- A focus on dignity, respect, and cost-effective resolutions.
Ready to Start Your Divorce Mediation Process?
If you’re considering mediation to save time, money, and stress — and want to protect your family’s well-being — contact Kales & Kales today.
💬 Schedule a consultation and learn how divorce mediation can help you reach a fair settlement without costly litigation.
📞 Call 703-896-7580 to get started.